"So I decided to break things off with Xander. Honestly, it never was supposed to have happened, and while we were seeing each other I never truly felt good about it. I couldn't tell my parents about him, or my siblings. For fear of being judged. And I felt bad, thinking about his wife. I mean, I don't know her from a can of beans, never seen the woman. But how would I feel if the man I was married to was cheating on me?